The family of murdered Feilding farmer Scott Guy will unveil a headstone this Friday to mark the one year anniversary of his killing.
Mr Guy was gunned down in the driveway of home on July 8 last year.
His brother-in-law Ewen Kerry MacDonald has been charged with his murder, although he has pleaded not guilty.
In a statement released today, Mr Guy's family said they do not expect to overcome their heartbreak, so will have to learn to live with it. The family also released three more photos showing Mr Guy, Kylee and their children Hunter, 3, and Drover, 9 months (shown below).
They say they have been touched by the love shown by caring New Zealanders, but have asked for privacy when the headstone is unveiled.
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Read the full statement from the Guy family below:
A message from Kylee Guy
“It has been a year since I lost my best friend, soul mate, husband and the most amazing father. Time has not helped to heal the pain I am feeling nor understand why we have not woken from this horrible nightmare.
What is the hardest for me coming up to a year since Scotty’s death is planning his unveiling. It feels like I am organising it for someone else and in reality I shouldn't have to be doing this. He should be here with me and the boys, he did not deserve this.
But my Scotty only deserves the ultimate best. I will always make sure he gets that. Together with family and friends, we will come together for Scotty's unveiling. It will be all about Scotty and how wonderful he is. We will share stories and are blessed to have amazing singers sing Scotty's favourite songs.
It’s going to be indescribably hard and so unfair. Life will never ever be the same. A part of me has died with Scott.
The boys are my life. My goal for Scotty is to be the best mum I can be; surrounding our boys in love, support and to uphold all Scotty's dreams and aspirations he had for them. The hardest part is that Hunter (3) and Drover (9 months) will have to live the rest of their lives without their devoted and loving daddy.
Scotty would have been 32 years old. He would have been cuddling his new born son Drover, looking down at a spitting image of himself, he would be watching and smiling at all his milestones. He would be taking Hunter out on the farm, reading him his favourite bed time stories, feeling an overwhelming sense of pride and joy at his beautiful boys (his cowboys). Telling everyone and anyone how proud he is of his little cowboys.
He would have been the most amazing husband as always, making me feel like I'm the luckiest woman in the world - feeling his warm cuddles, kisses and telling me how much he loves me. Our life to me would have been perfect. Scotty was always happy and thrived on making others happy too. He loved his life so much.
To lose our Scotty is so unfair. The most horrible feeling is having no choice but to live without him. Life has not been easy at all, continuously struggling each day. I still feel he is coming home, I cannot understand that this has happened. How could a young man who lived for his family, who would not hurt anyone, have the most sweetest and kind nature and that everyone loved; be taken from us.
Scott’s unveiling will be a private time for our family and friends.
Scotty you will always be my beautiful husband
and the love of my life.
You will always be our hero and the best daddy
in the world.
We love you.
From Scott’s parents Bryan and Joanne Guy
“This past year has been one of immense upheaval and challenge for our family. Our lives changed in a moment on 8 July 2010 when our son Scott was murdered. The heartache we experience is not something we expect to overcome, but rather learn to live with. Anniversaries of a week, a month or a year seem insignificant. Time does not lessen the pain of losing a beloved child.
We have precious memories of how Scott enjoyed his life, his family and his farming. We are thankful for how he touched our lives and we are richer for him being part of it. Each day now we choose to focus on what we have left, not what we have lost. Because of Scott we have learnt to appreciate each moment and try not to hold on to things. What used to be important is no longer, and priorities change.
Scott leaves a legacy of two beautiful boys. We are so thankful for that and we see Scott always in the way they look and act.
We have been overwhelmed and touched by the love and caring of New Zealanders. The support and prayers of friends and strangers alike in our local community and throughout the country has given us strength and courage to face each day. Scott’s death has been like a huge ripple in a pond and it has impacted on so many people. We are forever grateful to everyone for their kindness to us and our family. We wish to thank everyone for all the little things they have done to help us. We now realise that there are no little things – they are all big things that have made a difference to us.
Scott lived his life to the full. He lived for his family. He lived to enjoy life. The point is – he lived.”
source: newshub archive
