Normally on a Thursday morning I write a rugby blog about the All Blacks team.
Today instead, I'm writing a letter to men in the wake of the Chiefs stripper scandal and the lack of fallout from it.
By fallout, I don't just mean the players, I mean for us men in general.
You see, we have a responsibility to help fix this problem - and the hardest part of fixing it is that we have to rethink things that we don't even realise we do.
Two women felt harassed while doing their jobs.
So many people automatically said: "What did the strippers expect when they got naked in front of 30 men?" Those people exposed something about our society that is far more revealing than a stripper with her clothes off.
We should be shocked by the number of people who see strippers as lesser human beings. They have feelings and the same rights as everybody else.
New Zealand Rugby (NZR) said their investigation was never about the women, but the players and their conduct. Sorry, but this issue is about the women. If they are not at the centre of the investigation, there is a great misunderstanding of the real problem here.
Two women in two years felt so unsafe they were willing to risk their jobs by going public about it. This investigation should have been about making sure women are treated with respect, not whether rugby players should hire strippers.
A major education programme needs to be put in place, not just for rugby's players and administrators, but nationwide. New Zealanders need it drilled home that all women, no matter what they do or how they choose to dress, should be treated with respect.
This is how I understand the origins of this problem. Men helped create the stripping industry, yet men also try to make the women in that industry feel ashamed and scared. Men created the industry they wanted, then rather than treating it with respect, they gave it a place that society scorns.
So many negative attitudes towards women, sexuality and the female body are so deeply ingrained in society, that until it's pointed out to us, we have no idea of the problems we've created.
Now, as a society, we should strive to allow people the right to do what they want with their bodies, without judgement.
That would be a move forward - the kind of move that you'd think would allow strippers, and all women, to feel safer.
NZR, like most workplaces, doesn't see hiring strippers as appropriate. They should have also said that while they don't want them hired in their professional environment, they respect the right of women to do the jobs they please, without judgement.
As a male-dominated industry, it's important that rugby leads from the front here. Young men view rugby players as their heroes.
If rugby players went into schools to teach children about respect, the kids might just listen. In turn, players would feel more responsibility to set a good example with their own actions.
So, let's stop blaming the victims and start taking some responsibility.
This is not about ending Mad Mondays, it's about changing how people are treated at events like Mad Monday.
Ross Karl / Newshub.
