Merry scored 128 goals in her 284 international caps.
The Kiwis scored two late goals to clinch third place at the qualifying tournament in Oman.
The NZ men stayed alive with a draw against world champions Germany.
Blair Tarrant and Hugo Inglis will bring up 250 games, while Kane Russell can notch his 200th appearance.
New Zealand have been to every Olympics since Sydney 2000, but are yet to book their tickets to Paris.
The Black Sticks men and women face Australia and Great Britain this weekend.
Defeat in Amsterdam ends New Zealand's campaign.
New Zealand topped Pool B to reach the last eight in the Netherlands.
A newlook New Zealand side was no match for the Tokyo Olympics silver medallists.
